Remember Not to Get Comfortable

The past 2 1/2 years, Joshua and I have been living a pretty sweet life. He went to work everyday, had the occasional overnight or 2am work night, and was home most— if not all— weekends. In Joshua’s words… we’ve almost been living like civilians. We live on a military base, but it’s just like any other nice neighborhood. Not only is housing here at Quantico gorgeous, but I also work off-base so I’m in town everyday anyway. Again… like a civilian. I’m hardly friends with any military spouses on base, and I hang out the most with my co-workers and civilian friends. We only really talk about military life as it relates to our jobs, since we all work for the government… not as it relates to us personally. We don’t talk about being afraid of upcoming deployments or trainings, or that our husbands or wives might die. We don’t talk about PTSD, or picking up rank, or how we’re still reintegrating even almost three years post-deployment.
We’ve been living relatively normal lives the past two years. We’ve taken long weekends to visit family, spent time together watching TV series On Demand, explored the area with our puppy, and had plenty of time to make dozens of fun, worry-free, happy memories.
Things are going to change a bit in the upcoming months. First off, I have to clarify that Joshua won’t be going back to the fleet and I am soooo happy that the next three years should also be deployment-free. He’ll be doing a B-billet job as an SOI instructor (SOI = School of Infantry for Marines). So ladies and gents… if your spouse or S.O. is going through SOI after boot camp, there’s a good chance that Joshua will be one of his instructors later this year.
We don’t know a whole lot about what his schedule will be like yet, since he’s still going through school to become an instructor, but we do know that it doesn’t sound pretty. What we’ve heard from current instructors: He will be at work from the time the students wake up in the mornings until the time they go to bed at night. He will be gone on overnights in the field… a lot. He has to watch everything he says and does with the students, because the students are “always right” and if he upsets any of them, he will hear about it from his command. Basically, it will be very stressful and he will be gone a LOT.
Rather than count the number of ways this sucks (I’ll be alone in NC without friends way more than I was alone here in VA with friends, I’ll never see him, he’ll always be stressed out, I’m working from home so I will have no interaction with human beings for at least 40 hours a week, this is a three year assignment) …Oops. Sorry. I meant to say, rather than count the number of ways this sucks, I have to do my best to stay positive. I will do my best to be supportive, and hopefully better myself in the process. I might have more time to cook and clean since I’ll be working from home without a commute, and lord knows I need help in both those areas. Oh! And that’s the greatest positive of all… my company has agreed to keep me as a virtual employee, so I’ll still be employed! No job searching (in a military town with ZERO jobs in my field), hooray!
About the town… Jacksonville, North Carolina. Well… let’s just say it wouldn’t be my first choice. The town is so very military, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but it just means it’s that much harder to avoid it. And I’m not even sure I want to avoid it. In fact, I’d rather embrace it. It’s just that we’ve been living in this nice little civilian-esque bubble for so long now that it’s going to be a transition all over again.
So we’re PCSing soon (PCS = Permanent Change of Station = moving) and what’s the first thing I did? I researched where we’ll be moving to. Just like this blog I posted on Blog Brigade awhile back. Which, by the way, milspouses: If you haven’t submitted a blog post for Blog Brigade, I strongly recommend that you do! I work for the Blog Brigde. I’m like, the second in a line of four or five people to review the incoming blogs, so I can definitely put in a good word. Especially if it’s my friends that are blogging. Like Shannon. She’s written several guest blogs about finances. She’s also my go-to-girl for anything money or budgeting related. I can’t even tell you how many times I’ve texted her for things like how much she and her husband budget for their clothing allowance, or how much she spends on her hair. (You know, the things that matter!) Or sometimes, I just ask her WWDRD? What would Dave Ramsey do?
Oh, and since I work for the government with Blog Brigade, I’m not allowed to endorse any other military spouse blog over there. But since this is my personal blog, I also totally recommend that all of you write for SpouseBUZZ or Homefront United Network, too. These are two of my favorite blogs, and you can totally put that you contributed to them as a guest writer on your resume. And as a huge advocate for pumping up your resumes (friend me on LinkedIn!), I think that’s pretty sweet. I’m not really sure if I’m allowed to submit blog post for them since I work for BB and I don’t know if that is considered a conflict of interest or something? But remind me to look into that.
This past weekend Joshua and I went down to North Carolina to look for a place to live. We found a great house to rent. We were also able to reminisce with Joshua’s buddies from his previous unit, the ones he deployed to Afghanistan with. I got to see an old milspouse friend, and meet two new ones. One of which has a blog! She recognized me from my blog! Everybody go check out Stephanie from While I’m Waiting. She’s such a sweet girl and I’m so glad I got to meet another blogger. It’s like we have the instant connection whenever I meet another blogger… like we get each other. Or maybe I’m just a little crazy.
And with that… Over and out!