13 March 2012

Humble Beginnings


Sometime in the past year, I met a very inspiring woman who told me the stories of her "humble beginnings" as a military spouse. This woman is the owner and president of a successful, booming government contract company. Her husband, a service-disabled veteran, is the CEO. They have a beautiful family, a beautiful home, and they are good to their employees. She shared hilarious stories of their first duty station with Husband and I, and memories from their first years together as newlyweds. And seriously? She's definitely my most real role model.

I've now come to love that term, humble beginnings. These are our humble beginnings. Sometimes I get frustrated, seeing how far ahead of us other couples are, especially the ones that are close to us in age. I get jealous that they have so much, or have accomplished so much, and I wish we were there too. But I am slowly acquiring the patience and wisdom to sit back and tell myself— STOP. Those are not your humble beginnings, that is not your story. You're living your story your way, and you're doing the best you can. In the end, that's all you can really do or say, right?

Husband and I don't have a lot of extra money, but we work really, really hard. We never air our dirty laundry in public. We try to never fight in front of other people— it's so tacky. We don't own a home, and we have two car payments. Aside from our beds & our desks, all of our furniture is hand-me-downs from my family... beautiful & solid hand-me-downs, because my family has exquisite taste, but hand-me-downs nonetheless. We have big goals and bigger dreams. Sometimes, we drive through neighborhoods with big houses, pick out the ones we wish could be ours, and say, "Oh look, there's our house. Honey, did you leave the light on?"

Our china cabinet is filled with an assortment of sparkly new crystal from our wedding and family heirlooms from both sides of our family. We've discovered that martini glasses should not be left in the freezer door to chill, because we've each broken a beautiful new martini glass from swinging the freezer door open too fast. We're down to two.

We're struggling with this work-life-love balance... but we're strongest in the love department. Never-ending, unconditional love for each other. Work and life? That balance is hit or miss. One week we'll both excel at work and let the house become a mess and eat take-out every night. Another, we're struggling to get out of bed in the morning after staying up late cleaning, watching movies, or feasting on trial & error home-cooked meals from the previous evening.

We're learning things together— big and little life lessons. Like, did you know you have to put the Christmas tree in water right away, not 2 days later? Yeah. Learned that one quick. Or that hanging pictures & wall art can be pretty easy, as long as you have the right tools? That mice in kitchen pantries even show up in the cleanest of houses, and that Tupperware can be a great investment? We know that Husband doesn't mind vacuuming, while I prefer to mop. He'll take out the garbage, and I'll clean the toilets. Washing dishes is a chore we divide up, because we both hate doing them. Laundry? Joshua does his weekly. I'm lucky if I get to mine once a month.

Sundays are always reserved for military haircuts and picking up the newspaper for coupons. Sometimes, Husband's hair doesn't come out as he likes it and he gets upset. Some days, the paper doesn't have any coupons & I get upset. On random occasions, he just shaves his hair off at home & we forget all about getting the paper.

Mondays are for $5 burritos at Moes. Our love for burritos began long before our marriage, and it's kind of our thing. On his last deployment to Afghanistan, I waited a whole 7 months before having a burrito, because it didn't seem fair to have one without him, when he couldn't. We love our Moe Mondays.

The best part of every day is when we finally get into our comfy, pillow-top, queen-sized bed together, Husband on his back, my head on his chest, Lady by our pillows or feet. We set our alarms for work the next day, kiss each other goodnight, and off to sleep we go.

These are our humble beginnings.

17 comments:

  1. You two (or three) are seriously so cute! When we rejoice in the little things, that's what makes life worthwhile. You and your husband love one another, are super good looking ;), and are each other's best friends. It's worth more than any amount of money or promotion!

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  2. I love this entry (: It is so very true. It is hard sometimes not to compare where you are in life to others in similar situations... it is so tempting to get envious! But the important stuff, time together, always will win out.

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  3. Everyone has to start somewhere ;) Zack and I didn't have two pennies to rub together when we got married. We've come along way in the last six years, but there are still some times where we struggle. It's nice to see that there's something you do (er, well, don't do) when he's gone. I don't cut my hair when Zack is deployed. I get it trimmed but that's about it. I try not to do anything majorly huge while he's gone ;)

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  4. Oh good job. You made me CRY!

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  5. Crying too. I loved this post like you don't know!!

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  6. Such a cute post Danie!
    PS- i HATE, HATE, HATE vacuuming!So Joshua is welcome to vacuum at my house anytime!

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  7. This is so sweet! It's always good to stop and take account.

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  8. Hey Dani what a great post!! What a wonderful way to describe the beginning of life together! Also, we drive around looking at big beautiful houses and pick the ones we'd call home too!!! <3

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  9. This is an absolutely fabulous post! I LOVE it! It really hits home for me, and I've been thinking so many of the same things lately. I have to remind myself that our story is ours and no one elses.

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  10. New to your blog and just love this post. I am a fellow military wife (army) and I had to laugh about your Moe's tradition because I never went last time my hubs was gone either, it just didnt feel right! I think the most beautiful part of marriage is the growing adn figuring our things together. Sounds like yall are on a good path! Look forward to reading more.

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  11. Amen. I have to remind myself of that everyday. life can be rough sometimes.... just gotta keep pushing through.

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  12. So sweet! We have been married almost 10 years and not at all where we hoped we would be financially but we have done some truly amazing things together and that is what I try to focus on.

    Love your blog!

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  13. I love this post...

    BTW - I just stumbled on your blog tonight. I googled, "military spouse blog" and somehow navigated here. I think it was some kind of fate. Me and my hubs are at MCBQ, too :) I've been trying to find some new milspouse blogs and I'm so happy to have found yours. You have a fabulous gift of word, and I am enjoying reading!! :)

    Shannon

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  14. I absolutely needed this and LOVE it. Very humble. I need to remember this as Hubby and I start our sweet little lives together. You are so encouraging and inspiring. <3

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  15. Thank you all for such sweet comments! When I'm having a crappy day, I come back to read these and they make me so happy. It's good to know we aren't the only ones in our "humble beginnings" phase and that so many of you can relate, too! xoxoxo.

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